If you don’t have obvious digestive problems, you’ve probably already decided this post isn’t for you. Stay with me anyway.
Here’s where I’m with you: you’re not in pain. You’re not miserable. You’re not googling “why is my stomach always upset.” Nothing is broken. You’re managing, you’re busy, and you’ve got more pressing things on your mind than your gut microbiome.
I get it. I was right there with you.
But I want to offer you something that took me a while to see for myself: the absence of symptoms is not the same thing as feeling your best. There’s a version of underperformance that never announces itself. It shows up as waking up a little puffy most mornings and calling it just how your body is. A little slower than you used to be, chalked up to age. An afternoon that requires more pushing through than it probably should.
You’ve quietly set your baseline, and you’ve been living there so long you can’t see it anymore.
Optimal is not the same as normal. And the gap between those two words is where a lot of us are parked right now, myself included, and I didn’t even know it.
Why settle for typical when we can aim for optimal? That’s not a rhetorical question. I’m asking because most of us never actually ask it.
It started with Dave.
My husband Dave is not the kind of person you’d look at and immediately think “gut health issue.” But a few years ago he was diagnosed with sleep apnea, despite not fitting the typical profile at all. The machine helped for a while. Then it didn’t. The symptoms persisted. He was exhausted.
We did what most people do: we started researching and experimenting on our own. A stretch on the FODMAP diet. Eliminating certain foods and watching what happened. Trial and error, mostly error. He went through a full battery of endoscopies and medical tests, all of which came back inconclusive. We kept hitting walls.
That’s when we decided to find someone who would look at Dave as a whole person, not system by system. We found a naturopath who did comprehensive testing, looking at everything together instead of in isolation.
What they found changed everything.
Dave had a long list of food allergies. Some we’d suspected. Most we hadn’t. And here’s the thing that stopped me cold: his sleep apnea wasn’t structural. His tongue was swollen from allergic reactions, and it was blocking his airway when he slept. Food was causing it.
As he began working through the process, things shifted in ways that felt almost impossible. The snoring stopped. His stomach settled. His energy came back. And then something unexpected: the tartar buildup on his teeth dropped significantly. His dentist noticed before he did. It turns out the mouth microbiome and the gut microbiome are closely connected, and when one starts to heal, the other tends to follow.
None of this had been on our radar. We didn’t know to look for it. And I doubt we ever would have found it going system by system.
What we changed.
The list of what Dave removed from his diet is long. Gluten. Soy. Most dairy. Egg whites. Shellfish. Peanuts. Nightshades. We went from a fairly ordinary kitchen to what our friends now call an ingredient household. Not a lot of prepackaged anything in our fridge or pantry. Heavy on vegetables and fruit. Gluten-free flour for baking. A2 milk and yogurt in place of regular dairy, which Dave actually tolerates.
And I started making my own sourdough bread. This one matters, so I want to say it clearly: sourdough is a fermented food. The long fermentation process breaks down the gluten structure and reduces the compounds that trigger digestive distress for a lot of people. Dave can eat my sourdough without any issue, even though conventional bread is firmly off his list.
Sourdough isn’t alone in this. Fermented foods as a category are some of the most powerful things you can add to your diet for gut health. Kefir, kimchi, sauerkraut, miso, kombucha. Research on fermented foods consistently shows they increase the diversity of the gut microbiome and help reduce inflammation throughout the body. Diversity in your gut microbiome is, in simple terms, what healthy looks like at the microbial level.
Over time, Dave figured out where he could occasionally bend the rules without digestive devastation, and where he absolutely could not. That process is not cut and dried, and it won’t be for you either. We are all unique. What disrupts one person’s gut has no effect on another. But there are core fundamentals that serve almost everyone, and eating real food, reducing processed ingredients, and including things like fermented foods are at the top of that list.
I was cooking all of this alongside him. So the changes found me too, quietly, the way good things sometimes do.
What I noticed.
I want to be honest here, because I was never in Dave’s situation. I’d always counted myself in that lucky 15% of people without obvious digestive problems. No IBS. No food allergies I knew of. Nothing flagging.
But as our household shifted, I started noticing things I hadn’t been looking for. Higher output in the bathroom department, which sounds unglamorous but matters enormously as a marker of gut function. Less puffiness in my face and belly. A little more spring in my step. More effort available in my workouts, not more willpower, just more actual energy to give.
And then I added a fiber supplement to my morning shake.
Something clicked. I just felt different. Not dramatically, not overnight. But undeniably.
Had I been settling? Had I been so comfortable at my baseline that I’d stopped being curious about whether something better was available to me?
I went from good to great. Without trying to. Without knowing there was room.
That’s the sentence that stays with me. Because here’s the honest truth: if I hadn’t stumbled into this by living alongside Dave’s process, I would have kept calling myself fine. Probably until one day I wasn’t. What was actually happening was a slow drift off course. So gradual I couldn’t see it day to day.
It’s a little like how people gain weight. A pound or two a year doesn’t register. But five years later they’re ten pounds heavier, wondering how they got there, chalking it up to getting older. When really it was the bagel three times a week. Or whatever their version of that is. The drift is quiet. That’s what makes it easy to miss.
I almost missed mine.
I know what it feels like when your gut is genuinely not okay. I had a season a few years ago when my body needed real time to recover, and my gut was very much part of that. I know the difference between that and simply not being at your best. What I’m describing here is the quieter version: an underperformance that most of us never address because we never considered it might be there.
Why this matters more than most of us realize.
Roughly 85% of Americans deal with some form of digestive issue. I see this constantly in the people around me, family members managing IBS, friends navigating food allergies that, when triggered, create real disruption. And I’ve watched what happens when they make changes. Some see a dramatic reduction in symptoms. Some eliminate them almost entirely.
But there’s a bigger picture worth naming here.
The research on the gut-brain connection has moved fast over the last few years. A recent review covering over 4,000 adults found that rebalancing the gut microbiome may help prevent or slow cognitive decline in older adults. Other studies published in early 2026 have identified specific gut markers linked to early cognitive impairment. The link between gut health and conditions like dementia and Alzheimer’s is being studied more seriously than ever before.
I pay attention to this. Not because I’m afraid, but because I want to live my healthiest life for as long as I’m here. Not just avoid getting sick. Actually feel well, think clearly, and have the energy to do the things that matter to me. That orientation, what some people call healthspan rather than just lifespan, changes what questions you’re willing to ask and what you’re willing to look for.
What this might look like for you.
Here’s the honest version: there is no single answer. Gut health is personal. What Dave’s body needed is a list specific to him. What your body needs may look completely different, and figuring that out usually involves some trial, some error, and some patience.
But there are places almost everyone can start.
More vegetables. More fiber. Fewer ingredients you can’t pronounce. Fermented foods if you tolerate them: sourdough, kefir, kimchi, sauerkraut, kombucha. Paying attention to how you feel two hours after you eat, not just in the moment. Drinking more water than you think you need.
And here’s a way of thinking about it that I find useful. Ask yourself: I do this so that I can…
I eat more vegetables so that I have energy when I need it in the evening. I reduce processed food so that I don’t wake up puffy and slow. I add fiber to my morning shake so that everything downstream works the way it’s supposed to. I pay attention to what I eat so that my brain stays sharp as I get older.
Small, specific reasons. Not a wellness overhaul. Just a question: what would you do differently if you actually believed there was more to feel?
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The question worth sitting with is this: are you actually at your best, or have you just gotten comfortable at your baseline?
You don’t have to be suffering to deserve better than where you are.
Talk soon. Mary
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